Children develop seemingly irrational phobias because of an experience where their brain “learns” the fear.
For example: if a small child see their mother screaming about a spider, their brain may falsely “learn” that spiders are all dangerous and seek to protect them. This explains the child’s phobic reaction to spiders.
Children can feel trapped by their fears as much as grown ups.
Their distress is made worse by the feeling that no one understands. Avoid invalidating your child’s feelings by calling them silly or irrational; they are genuinely frightening to your child.
It is worth explaining how phobias start to your child so they understand that it is perfectly normal for them to feel the way they do given the experience they have had.
You might point out that as they have learned the phobia, they can unlearn it.
The Phobia Fixes
The Phobia Fixes will help your child cope better with the subject of their phobia.
The Fixes will focus on the experience which caused or established the phobia and help your child to process the memory better: it will take the “scary” out of the experience.
Your child will visualise the calm reaction they will have when they encounter their old phobia. This will lay down a mental blueprint for them to follow when they encounter their old phobia in real life.
You will be sent two downloads: the first, a full length one for your child to listen to for the first few days, or as long as it takes for them to feel better about the experience which caused their phobia; the second, a shorter download to listen to for the remainder of the treatment (ten days or so) focussing on how their calm reaction to their old phobia.